The theme for this month's NaBloPoMo daily challenge is WHETHER (or weather) and given that I went to DC without my Mac, I have already failed the daily challenge because I didn't even post from my phone.
I spent an entire weekend with some of the finest people I've ever met. We've been a pack for six years give or take and this weekend, whether we liked it or not, we had to admit that things will be changing. I, of course, have tons of photos that I plan to put into a retrospective post of my time with them--all the laughs, the tears and trips.
My ability to adapt and overcome is somewhat legendary--my appreciation for having to do so and my willingness to enjoy it as it's happening is pretty non-existent.
The chemistry of this group cannot be recreated or imitated. It also can't be extinguished by time or miles.
These types of relationships built upon trust, shared experiences, common interests, respect, mutual affection and the utmost loyalty are so rare. It continually amazes me that I not only found it more than once, but I found it within a group from day one to the present.
These are the kinds of friends people look for no matter how young or old they are--when they see others with individuals like this in their lives, they pine for similar connections. I could be (and have been) distraught over the abrupt end to the status quo. But, more than anything, I'm thankful for what has been and what will continue to be. For those years we spent refining our relationships, digging deep and honestly learning to appreciate the individuals, their families and their histories.
This weekend, I realized that whether the thing that brought us together exists anymore is a non-issue. One of my very core philosophies is that you cannot deal with what you wish something were or what it used to be, you must deal with what is. Thank goodness "what is" remains so steadfast and wonderful. It was a breath of fresh air to take the leap of faith--to recognize that the comfortable and familiar no longer existed except within the people themselves.
Whether we like it or not, situations change. The marvelous thing is that whether others like it or not, bonds like ours cannot be broken. Voices like ours will not be silenced. The good we have done and will continue to do will bless us and those we meet in the future.
The awesome thing is, we didn't fall apart--we jumped together for our own reasons, but with the same result. And, for once, I'm ecstatic about it! Because when I looked around, I realized we were still standing and laughing, eating great food, drinking marvelous wine, sharing memory making moments.
That's the beauty of things that happen, whether we like it or not.