This weekend I'm missing time in Vegas with some of my best girlfriends. And, my husband has to come off leave to go to a 30-day "Hey, you're back from deployment" weekend of briefings. So, not only am I NOT in Vegas, I'm solo parenting three girls for the first time, one of whom is in a cast. Sheesh.
I will say, though, that M3 has unconsciously been making the prospect of this weekend a little less scary and daunting. Tonight, we attended M1's band concert and M3 sat through the 45 minutes of 5th, 6th and junior high band performances without making any sort of scene. She was quiet--more quiet than other people's kids to be sure and she didn't kick anyone in the back (unlike the kid behind me). She also didn't burst into song when M1's band played the tune to "Are You Sleeping, Brother John" which M3 routinely sings with gusto. I had warned her she might hear that song and that this was a listening show, not a singing show so we weren't allowed to sing. At all. She didn't, but MAN was she excited to hear that tune. Cracked me up.
Then tonight when I went upstairs to tuck M3 in, she said it, "MOMMY!" and she kept using that word when referring to me for the remainder of the night.
Since we picked her up, M3 has called me "Mama" which was wonderful. I'd never been Mama to an older kid as M1 and M2 went from Mama in infant time to Mommy pretty quickly. M3 has always used Mama for me and I thought that was her term for a mother in general.
However, I realized a couple weeks ago that when referring to her birth mother, M3 would call her EthioMommy or just Mommy. I thought that perhaps that's how she had us organized in her mind and she had given me Mama so I'd have a unique name not to be confused with her EthioMommy. I also had to admit that somewhere in her heart she may decide to keep that term only for her EthioMommy and that would be okay too.
When I realized what she had said, it took a moment for it to sink in and then when it did, I cannot explain to you what that felt like. I think it even topped her calling me Mama for the first time. Truly.
This trip has been quite a journey so far. Maybe M3 is feeling more and more comfortable taking it with us?